面對自己的未來.. 你要如何處理呢??
Donna Shaw 這句 "it's all right to cry but it's even better to smile."' 要哭可以.但是笑更好!
或許,也是很多正在悲傷的人可以好好思考的方向...
英17歲癌末少女 籌辦自己的喪禮
http://news.chinatimes.com/world/11050403/112011021500132.html
英國十七歲少女唐娜．蕭（Donna Shaw）幾個月前還在計畫將來要投身幼保工作，如今她卻在籌措自己的喪禮。唐娜罹患罕見的骨癌「伊文氏骨肉瘤」，得知來日無多，但唐娜不自怨自憐，反倒認真為自己籌畫一場喪禮。
唐娜家住英國中部德比市郊區的艾爾維斯敦。去年二月，她被診斷出罹患伊文氏骨肉瘤。在切除肩膀八成的腫瘤細胞後，唐娜開始接受化療。
去年耶誕節前數周，唐娜因胸部感染被迫停止化療，她在家度過耶誕節、生日（十二月廿九日）以及新年之後返回醫院，醫生告訴她，癌細胞在她的左半身蔓延，顯見化療無效，他們已無計可施。
儘管只剩幾個月可活，唐娜仍然勇敢面對。去年動完手術後，她曾說痊癒後打算踢足球，還要上大學念幼兒保育系。這些計畫現在全部作廢，取而代之的是一套精心設計的《喪禮安排計畫》。唐娜對喪禮每個細節都作了安排，包括吟唱的詩歌、花卉的顏色，她還錄製了一段錄影，準備在喪禮播放。此外，她還邀請六位至親好友替她抬棺。
唐娜打算穿著她在母親妮姬．帕克（Nikki Parker）二○○八年再嫁時，自己穿的那件伴娘禮服入殮，身邊放著她最愛抱的玩具貓史克魯菲（Scruffy）。她還希望參加喪禮的男士都打著粉紅色領帶，那是她最喜歡的顏色。在她火化之後，她要求骨灰撒在英國南部著名的布萊頓碼頭（Brighton Pier）外海。所有這些，唐娜全寫在一本小小的記事簿裡。母親妮姬表示，當醫生宣稱唐娜不可能康復，但他們能盡力控制病情，唐娜回過頭來問道：「何必拖延下去？」她認為與其讓病魔折騰，還不如有尊嚴地離開這世界。
唐娜勇敢面對死亡，讓周遭每個人深受鼓舞。她說：「得了癌症後，我的座右銘是：『要哭可以，但笑會更好。』」她補充道：「當我睡覺時，我是會害怕，我怕的不是死亡，而是怕離開家人。」
Brave teenager plans her own funeral after being told rare cancer is terminal
By Daily Mail Reporter
Last updated at 8:17 AM on 14th February 2011
A brave teenager is planning her own funeral after being told her rare form of cancer is untreatable.
Donna Shaw, 17, was diagnosed with rare bone cancer Ewing's Sarcoma in February last year.
Despite surgery and chemotherapy, she has been told nothing more can be done, so is now planning her final months and every detail of her own funeral, her mother has said.
Inspirational: Donna Shaw, 17, pictured here with her mother, Nikki Parker, has planned her own funeral
Nikki Parker, 45, who has given up her job in a restaurant to be Donna's carer, said her daughter was an 'inspiration' to everyone around her.
She said: 'She has written everything out. She has asked six people she wants to carry her coffin, all friends and family.
'She has chosen everything, her songs, she has got a video of her she wants playing at the funeral, and the colours of the flowers.'
Terminal: The teenager was diagnosed with rare bone cancer Ewing's Sarcoma in February last year
Together: Donna has been able to talk though her thoughts with mother Nikki and stepfather Mik Parker
Donna plans to wear her bridesmaid dress from when her mum married husband Mik Parker in October 2008, she said, and will have her favourite cuddly toy beside her.
Men will wear pink ties - Donna's favourite colour - and after her cremation, she wants her ashes scattered off Brighton Pier.
'It's actually made it easier,' said Mrs Parker, from Alvaston, Derby.
'I know that seems silly, but because she is being as strong as she is, it does help.
'These are a 17-year-old's dying wishes and this is what will happen when the time comes.'
She said after Donna was first diagnosed, she had surgery to remove 80 per cent of the main tumour growing in her shoulder.
Kiss: Donna has said that she wishes to have her funeral wearing her mother's wedding dress
She then underwent chemotherapy but was rushed into hospital a few weeks before Christmas with a chest infection.
'We got told that because she was so poorly we would hold off on the chemo until after Christmas', Mrs Parker said.
'Her birthday is December 29 so we had Christmas, her birthday then New Year at home.
'On January 6 we had an appointment with our consultant who basically said the chemo has not been working.
'It was awful, by then the tumours had started to spread and grow rapidly, it's all down her left side.
'She had a cry, and swore and shouted and then came to terms with it.'
Wishes: Donna at home in Alvaston, Derby, hopes to attend a Westlife concert in March and then, if she is well enough, see skaters Torvill and Dean in April
Mrs Parker said once Donna knew her cancer was untreatable she decided she wanted to die in dignity.
'Donna isn't silly, she is quite mature for her age, since all this happened she has grown up quite a lot and she does talk to me and her stepdad,' she said.
'We all came to the decision that these tablets and the rest of the chemo wasn't working.
'When you get told by your consultant that there is no cure but we can keep it at bay, Donna turned round and said, "why prolong it?"
'Donna's friends have been absolutely fantastic. This house is never empty, she has got a huge collection of teddies, everyone brings one every time they come.
Mrs Parker said they still have plans to enjoy the time her daughter has left, including seeing Westlife in concert in March and then, if Donna is well enough in April, seeing skaters Torvill and Dean.
Donna said she made the decision to die with dignity after seeing other friends with cancer die on her ward.
'One of my friends was only five so he couldn't make his own decisions, he passed away on January 9.
'His parents kept prolonging things and he just looked like a skeleton. If I had not seen that I probably would have said yes to carrying on with treatment.
'My motto since I have had cancer has been, "it's all right to cry but it's even better to smile."'
She added: 'Sometimes I'm scared, sometimes I'm petrified, sometimes I think so what.
'When I go to sleep I'm quite scared, I'm not scared of dying, I'm scared to leave my family.'
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